How to manage an angry child?

  • By Team TDO

The first thing to remember is that anger is an emotion. While adults know how to behave socially even if they are angry, children find it difficult to deal with this emotion in a socially acceptable manner.It is a form of self-expression. Many situations can trigger anger in a child and may sometimes lead to an aggressive situation. In some cases, when childrenfeel angry, they throw tantrums, become abusive, scream, kick, bite or throw things.

How should deal with anger in kids?

The important thing to calm the child is to first find out the reason that made your kid angry. Toddlers often can’t find the words to explain their problem, or they are tired and not able to understand it. When you see your child becoming angry, and losing control on self-expression, it is important that you step in to help them. Parents need to be calm themselves. If you also get angry, you cannot ease your kid’s issues. In fact, kids observe that even their parent can’t control anger. They become more angry and disappointed.

Having found the reason, try to resolve it. If it is some object that is irritating him, let it be out of the sight.If the issue is with some other child or the sibling, take both the kids to separate rooms and give each kid equal importance and reasoning.

Take the kid out of the home or in the garden or terrace and ask them to take deep breaths as this may relax their muscles and help them cool down. Give the child a glass of water to drink. After this the child may want to be alone and may not wish to eat or talk. Give them their space. Forcing them to laugh or come and sit with you and have meals will again start the scene. Let them take some time and come themselves. However,if the child is getting to the extreme levels of it and you feel that this kind of behavior is going to harm your kid, then, a medical support is advised. There may be underlying issues which prompt towards professional help. Try to engage your kids in activities like drawing, painting, sand play, clay molding, etc. anything that they enjoy when they tend to lose control on themselves.